When Kiara and Terrence first met through a matchmaking service, they both felt something different. It was not just a great first date, it was the beginning of a carefully guided journey toward marriage. Within 18 months, they went from that first introduction to walking down the aisle. Their story is a testament to how Black matchmaking, with its focus on serious commitment, can fast track the path from first date to “I do.”
Intentional Matching for Marriage Goals: One reason matchmaking can lead to quicker engagements is intentional pairing. Matchmakers often match Black singles based on long term compatibility factors, not just attraction and common interests, but also life goals, family plans, and values. For example, Kiara profile emphasised her desire to start a family soon and Terrence was likewise eager to be a father, an alignment the matchmaker noted right away. By matching two people who were both in a life stage ready for marriage, their relationship naturally progressed toward that outcome without the usual ambiguity.
Guided Relationship Milestones: Throughout Kiara and Terrence’s courtship, their matchmaker played a subtle but important role. After their successful first few dates, the matchmaker checked in with each of them to encourage open communication. When it came time for deeper discussions (finances, merging households, etc.), the matchmaker even provided conversation prompts and resources.
This kind of guidance is common in matchmaking; it is like having a relationship coach built in. For Black couples, this support can be invaluable, it helps navigate topics that sometimes derail couples. By the time Terrence was ready to propose, both he and Kiara had already discussed the fundamentals of marriage, from how they would handle money to how they would honour both families in their wedding. There were fewer surprises and more certainty, making the leap to engagement a lot less daunting.
Support from Family and Community: Many Black matchmaking services also offer support in integrating families and community early on. In Kiara and Terrence, their matchmaker organised a meeting with Terrence’s mentors (an older Black couple married 40 years) to share wisdom with them. Embracing community input and the proverbial village, which reinforced their commitment.
It is not unusual for matchmakers to host workshops or retreats for their couples, focusing on skills for a successful marriage (communication, conflict resolution, etc.). All these elements mean that by the time a proposal happens, a solid foundation has been laid. It is not a rushed decision; it is a well prepared one.
For Black singles who are serious about marriage, matchmaking offers a kind of marriage bootcamp in disguise. Every step of dating is purposeful, milestones are celebrated, and potential pitfalls are addressed proactively. That is not to say every matchmaking match leads to marriage, but when marriage is the goal, the journey is mapped out with that destination in mind. Kiara often jokes that she got a “fast pass” to wedded bliss, but in truth, she and Terrence did the work, and they just had an expert to guide them. If you are dreaming of saying “I do” and want a more direct route to finding that person who will be waiting at the altar, consider matchmaking as your secret weapon. Join our Relationship Readiness Masterclass to make sure you are ready for that journey, from the very first date to the day you say your vows.