After years of dating that led nowhere, Malcolm was done with wasting time. At 40, this successful entrepreneur knew he wanted marriage, and he wanted it with someone truly compatible. He noticed a trend among some of his friends, those who were most serious about finding a spouse had hired matchmakers or dating coaches. Black singles like Malcolm who are seeking marriage are increasingly turning to matchmaking services, and it is easy to see why.
Serious Pool of Candidates: Matchmaking serves as a filter to ensure everyone involved is genuinely open to marriage. On dating apps or at random social events, it is hard to tell who is on the same wavelength about commitment. But when you engage a matchmaker, you are essentially joining a club of marriage minded individuals. This immediately increases your odds of meeting someone who not only wants a long term relationship but is actively preparing for one. The Broom List, for example, is a service specifically for Black professionals seeking marriage; their entire pool of clients is marriage focused. That means no more guessing games or awkward “do you ever want to get married?” questions that scare off the wrong people. Everyone in the matchmaking process has already declared, “Yes, I am looking for my life partner.”
Privacy and Discretion: Black singles in high profile careers or with community visibility (doctors, executives, pastors, etc.) may be hesitant to publicly advertise their search for a spouse. Matchmaking offers a level of privacy and discretion that is very appealing. Instead of plastering a dating profile online, you can quietly work with a professional who will handpick matches. Malcolm, for instance, valued that discretion. He did not necessarily want colleagues or clients stumbling upon his dating app profile. Through matchmaking, he could pursue love without feeling exposed or judged, a concern that many Black professionals voice, given the double standards they sometimes face in the workplace regarding their personal lives.
Support in Healing and Growth: Many Black singles come into the dating scene with past hurts or societal pressures that can make the journey to marriage challenging. Perhaps it is the weight of statistics that show Black women marrying later (or less) than other groups, or personal experiences of bias in dating. Matchmakers often provide a form of emotional support and empowerment coaching. They help clients build confidence, break negative dating patterns, and envision a happy marriage. This support is particularly significant in the Black community, where open discussions about emotional health and relationship coaching have not always been common. By turning to matchmaking, marriage seeking individuals are not only finding partners, they are also finding mentors and cheerleaders in their matchmakers.
Malcolm ended up meeting his now wife through a matchmaker. He credits that choice for his marital happiness. “I had to be intentional. Once I invested in the process, everything changed,” he says. For Black singles serious about marriage, matchmaking is not a magic wand, but it is a powerful tool. It brings you focus, surrounds you with equally intentional partners, and guides you with expert knowledge rooted in experience and often, cultural understanding. If marriage is your destination, why not use every resource available to get there? Book your Relationship Readiness Audit and let us ensure you are equipped for the journey toward the lifelong partnership you desire.