Be a M.A.G.N.E.T.: Mindset, Availability, Generosity, Non‑reactivity, Empathy, Tempo
Short answer: emotionally available men are drawn to women who make safety, clarity, and steadiness easy. Become a M.A.G.N.E.T. Shape your Mindset, show real Availability, practice small Generosities, stay Non‑reactive under mild stress, communicate Empathy, and keep a healthy Tempo.
Steps
M — Mindset: Date to discern, not to win. Swap “Do they like me?” for “Do we function well together?”
A — Availability: Publish two weekly windows (e.g., Thu after 6; Sat 9–12). Hold them 4 weeks straight.
G — Generosity: Offer warmth in small ways. Thank the planner, bring a tiny shareable (two napkins, not gifts), give specific appreciation.
N — Non‑reactivity: Use a 20‑minute timeout when flooded; return on time. Calm under friction is magnetic.
E — Empathy: Reflect what you heard before problem‑solving.
T — Tempo: Meet within a week, date 60–90 minutes in daylight/public, set a clear second date if it lands. Intimacy follows commitment/clarity.
Scripts
Opener: “Your community photo stood out—I mentor Saturdays. What is your lane?”
Invite (5–7 msgs): “Free Thu 6:30 near [landmark] for a short walk or tea?”
Pace: “I date for relationship at a steady pace; weekly plan + a mid‑week call works for me.”
Timeout: “I’m getting a bit flooded, can I grab 10 minutes and come right back?”
Appreciation: “I felt cared for when you confirmed this morning thank you.”
30‑/90‑Day Plan & Metrics
30 days: publish windows; design two first‑date routes; refresh profile (three scenes, two values in verbs, one boundary, one CTA).
90 days: run two invites/week, two dates/week, two community hours/week (+1 reflection hour).
Metrics: Show‑Up ≥ 80%; Second‑Date ≥ 35%; Repair speed ≤ 24h; Reciprocity (they initiate ≥ 40% weeks); Peace index rising (1–5).
Bottom line: steadiness and warmth held by boundaries pull emotionally available men like gravity.