When Alejandro from Spain and Priya from England met through an international photography forum, neither expected it to turn into anything serious. But what started as comments on each other photos turned into long messages, then daily video calls. Before they knew it, they were in an international long distance relationship two people who had never stood in the same room yet had fallen deeply in love. Friends were skeptical: could this really work across 1,000+ miles and a five hour time difference? It was not easy, especially on nights when one of them just wanted a real hug. But Alejandro and Priya made a plan: they scheduled virtual dinner dates, kept a shared online journal of their daily highlights, and saved up for visits every few months. A year and many air miles later, they finally closed the distance when Priya relocated for a job opportunity near Alejandro. They joke that if they could survive and thrive while oceans apart, they can handle anything life throws at them.
Long distance relationships (LDRs) are not for the faint of heart, but they are increasingly common especially when online dating can connect people from different cities or even countries. Many singles are hesitant about long distance (about half say they would not consider a relationship with someone far away), but those who take the leap find that with effort and communication, it can absolutely work. The key is treating an LDR as a real relationship, not a “lesser” one, which means putting in the time, trust, and creative energy to keep the bond strong across the distance.
Tips to Navigate a Long Distance Romance:
- Communicate Regularly and Creatively: Establish a rhythm that works for both of you maybe it is a goodnight video call each day, or a longer catch up on weekends. Use all the tools at hand: text, voice notes, video chat, even snail mail letters or surprise care packages. Variety keeps the connection fresh.
- Set Expectations and Trust Ground Rules: Talk early about what you need to feel secure. Is the relationship exclusive? How often will you try to visit each other? Being on the same page prevents a lot of misunderstandings. And since you cannot see each other often, trust is paramount. Keep your promises and be transparent to build confidence in each other.
- Have a Future Plan: Long distance is easier to bear when there is light at the end of the tunnel. Discuss your end goal it might be moving to the same city or an agreement that if things keep going well for X time, you will figure out relocation. Knowing the distance is temporary (even if long term temporary) gives both partners motivation and hope.
Call to Action: If you have met someone amazing who happens to live far away, do not dismiss it outright. Have an honest conversation about trying a long distance arrangement. With the right effort and heart, miles do not have to stop love they are just another challenge you two can overcome together.
Sources: pewresearch.org