Being a marriage minded single in today dating world can feel like an uphill battle, especially for Black singles who often face additional challenges. Janelle, a 35 years old attorney, knew from early on that she was dating to find a life partner, not just a casual fling. But she found that openly stating “I’m looking for marriage” scared off some people on dating apps. For Black singles like Janelle who are seeking a partner for life, the key is to date with intention and surround yourself with others who share that goal.Clarity is Key: The first step is embracing your intentions. There is nothing wrong with wanting marriage it is a value and a goal, not a “desperation” signal. By being upfront (with yourself and potential partners) that you are looking for a serious, long term relationship, you save time and energy. Serious Black singles often gravitate towards environments that foster commitment. This is one reason why matchmaking and curated events are popular among marriage minded singles everyone there is on the same page by default.Aligning Values Early: Marriage is about partnership in every aspect of life, so finding someone who shares your core values is crucial. Studies show that shared values and goals are strong predictors of long term relationship success. Marriage minded Black singles should discuss topics like family, finances, and faith earlier rather than later. It might feel heavy to bring up future on date #2 or #3, but consider this, if having children, for example, is non negotiable for you, it is better to know sooner if a potential partner is on the same path. Black matchmaking services often facilitate these conversations by matching individuals who agree on big picture things like wanting kids or prioritizing career and family balance.Success Story, A Partnership in the Making: Take Kelvin and Aisha, for instance. Both are Black professionals in their late 30s who were tired of casual dating. They met through a matchmaking introduction specifically because they shared the goal of marriage. On their first date, it was refreshing and neither danced around the topic of the future. They openly discussed what they envisioned in a marriage, from supporting each other careers to raising children with strong cultural roots. That honesty did not scare either of them, it attracted them.Today, they are happily engaged. Kelvin often says that knowing Aisha was also looking for a lifelong partner made him feel safe to express his true feelings, something he hadn’t felt in past relationships.For marriage minded Black singles, the journey may have unique twists, perhaps you are navigating career pressures, or you feel statistical odds are against you (as headlines often highlight). But remember, your dedication to finding a life partner is a strength, not a weakness. It helps you filter out those who are not ready and focus on those who are. Keep your standards high and your heart open. Whether through a trusted matchmaker, community networks, or simply clearer communication on dates, you can create the conditions to meet “the one.” And when you do, you will know it is a bond built on shared dreams. If you are ready to approach dating with this level of clarity and purpose, Book your Relationship Readiness Audit today and let make sure you are prepared to find and keep that partner for lifeRelationship Readiness AuditIf you like more guidance on how to be ready for a lasting relationship, our Relationship Readiness Audit will be helpful to you. click here to book your session.Read More