Online dating can feel like a game of guesswork, but it does not have to be. If you are using an Afro-Caribbean dating site or app, one of the best ways to stand out and save time is to be clear in your communication. That means expressing what you are looking for in a positive, straightforward way both in your profile and when messaging potential matches. It might sound a bit bold, but trust me, many people find honesty refreshing.Let’s start with your profile. You have likely filled out the basics, but have you clearly stated what you want? You don’t need to write a whole essay about seeking marriage or a serious relationship unless you want to, but a line or two about your intentions helps.For example, “Looking to connect with someone for a serious, long-term relationship,” or “open to love and hoping to find something real.” These phrases let viewers know you are not there just for casual flings, aligning with the idea of dating with purpose we discussed in “Polishing Your Profile: Making the Most of Black Dating Sites”. And if you are just looking to date casually or make new friends, that is okay too, say it. The right people will appreciate your openness, and the wrong ones will scroll on by, which is what you want.Now, onto messaging. Once you match with someone, communication is key. Instead of the generic “hey, what’s up,” try referencing something from their profile to show genuine interest. And don’t shy away from asking lighthearted questions about topics that matter to you.If faith is important, you might ask, “Have you found any good churches or community events in the area?” or if you value ambition, “What do you enjoy about your work or studies?” These are not interrogations. They are ways to see if your values align, all while getting to know each other.Being clear also means listening to what the other person shares. If they mention not looking for anything serious and you are, respect that truth and consider moving on, as tough as it may be. It is better than trying to convince someone into commitment. Good communication is a two-way street: express yourself but also pay attention to what is being said and sometimes what’s not said.At the end of the day, clarity in communication is about respect for your own needs and for the other person’s time and feelings. It lays the groundwork for a relationship built on honesty. If you are unsure how you are coming across online or you want to sharpen those communication skills, our Relationship Readiness Audit can give you feedback and direction. By being open and genuine, you will attract the kind of relationship that thrive on the same values and intentions you hold dear.Relationship Readiness AuditIf you like more guidance on how to be ready for a lasting relationship, our Relationship Readiness Audit will be helpful to you. click here to book your session.Read More