ACMA community guidelines

Afro-Caribbean Matchmaking Agency (ACMA) is a matchmaking service for singles seeking a long-lasting love relationship within the Afro-Caribbean community.

We want you to have a safe, and enjoyable matchmaking experience. To accomplish this, we request that all users adhere to community guidelines and be conscious of conducting yourself with respect and integrity.

The quintessential rule

One of the most important things to keep in mind as you use our matchmaking service is:

Treat your matches the way you would want to be treated.

So, when you are paired with another client, conduct yourself with the highest degree of respect and courtesy.

The four foundations of interactions with potential matches

There are four key tenets we ask you to observe while you interact within other clients:

Be kind

Be respectful

Be sincere

Be safe

Here are some Tips on how to conduct yourself:

Being kind

ALWAYS treat others you interact with through ACMA matchmaking the way you would want them to treat you.

Don’t be rude. Don’t be mean. Don’t bully, intimidate, defame, harass or stalk other clients. If someone says they’re not interested, leave them be, do not seek them out. Even if you don’t think you did anything wrong during a meet, even if you believe the other person was what you desire in a partner, the best course is to respect their wishes and allow our matchmakers to continue the search on your behalf. Your ideal partner is still waiting to meet you.

Tips

• Be careful what you say at all times. What you believe is a joke may be taken very personally by someone else.
• Threats, racism, hate speech, or bigotry is ugly, they are all illegal acts, and we deem any such reports to be serious. Depending on the severity, they may lead to your relationship with ACMA being terminated.

Being respectful

Strong relationships require mutual respect, and it is of great benefit to exhibit respect from the outset.

Be cautious of the words you speak. Show yourself to be discreet, kind, respectful and compassionate in all your utterances.

We are all adults, and singles may send flirty and even sexy messages to each other. But only when it’s consensual. Don’t communicate messages containing unwelcome sexual propositions or sexually explicit content, particularly at the initial stages of a relationship.

Tips

• DO NOT share or request personal information.
• Sending sexy photos, or talking about kinks or fantasies can be fun, but not right at the start of a relationship. Let things develop first.
• DO NOT share, nude or sexually explicit photos.
• DO NOT share images that depict violence, drug use or criminal activity.
• Do not share photos of minors, even if accompanied by adults. Such photos are a violation of children’s privacy.

Being sincere

If you are seeking an extra-marital relationship, a one night stand or any such like, you are at the wrong agency. The ACMA matchmaking community is for singles who are sincere in their quest to find a life partner. If we discover that you are a scammer, impersonator, fraudster, or criminal of any sort, you will be banned from our agency and may be reported to the police. Don’t use ACMA matchmaking agency for promotional opportunities. Do not use copyrighted images belonging to other users without their express permission. You bear all responsibility for the use or sharing of any user’s copyrighted images without their express permission.

Tips

• All personal information you provide should be true. Lying is disrespectful to other users who might be attracted by your profile and is a breach of our terms and conditions.
• Your profile picture must be a true representation of you. Use pictures that gives a clear view of your face. Don’t include group photos: people won’t know which face is yours.
• Do not use memes or heavy filters that hide your face. Users want to know what you really look like!

Being safe

The overarching rule for safety on ACMA matchmaking is to always consider your safety. Only interact with people through the ACMA agency, don’t be too willing to share everything too soon. Never reveal your address, email, or phone number to anyone until trust is fully established. Be wary of strangers who solicit money from you. Remember scammers are usually very convincing. Don’t let yourself fall a victim of their fake charms.

ACMA is a matchmaking site, not an e-commerce site. Never try and acquire another member’s private information, such as passwords, National Insurance Number, financial information or their home or work address. You are not allowed to use any member’s private or public information for commercial purposes, or unlawful or nefarious activities.

Only adults are accepted as members. Any client discovered to be under 18 years old will be instantly removed from our matchmaking service. We ask our members to report any account that belongs to someone who is underage for your safety and theirs.

If you are interacting with anyone who makes you feel uncomfortable or who if violating our rules, report them using one of our provided contact methods or through our customer service feature.

Tip

• Don’t use pressure tactics to secure another client’s personal information. Remember they do not yet know you. Be patient, courteous, and kind, and if they like you and consider you a potential partner, they will reveal such information in due course, when they are comfortable doing so.

Behave yourself, always

Part of the goal is for our singles to eventually meet in person, whether on a date or at some singles get-to-gather. Therefore, we encourage you to be sincere and genuine in all revealed information from the beginning and onwards – honesty is always the best policy.

If you have met someone through ACMA matchmaking who makes you uncomfortable, for example by using derogatory or insulting language towards you, we want to hear about it. Contact our customer services and we’ll do our best to help.

Do not resort to bullying. Love cannot be commanded or forced. At ACMA, we define bullying as you sending repeated and continuous messages to someone despite them not responding to you. These messages can undermine people’s sense of security and safety, mental health, and through their repetitive nature and the use of insulting, discriminatory and defamatory content, or of a sexual nature without mutual consent. We have developed three rules of engagement to stem this type of bullying:

• Rule 1. Exhibit patience. Once you have messaged someone, wait for them to either respond or choose not to.
• Rule 2. Restrain your replies. Once or two is fine, but three times is too much.
• Rule 3. Show Respect to the other person: don’t use insulting or denigrating language or send inappropriate photos that were unsolicited.

If you receive messages from someone who is too pushy and is making you uncomfortable, report the client to customer service. Every report is dealt with in the quickest possible time.