“Dating red flags” content is everywhere: love bombing, inconsistency, future‑faking, lack of empathy, no accountability.Influencers, including Shan Boody and many therapists, have given us helpful language for patterns that used to be invisible.But here’s the issue: knowing red flags doesn’t automatically mean you stop choosing them.What Red Flag Lists Get Right They make you conscious of harmful behaviours. They validate your intuition: “I wasn’t overreacting – that was” They help you exit bad situations faster.We use red flag language all the time with clients. It’s a useful diagnostic tool.Why It’s Not EnoughMost red flag lists focus on the other person. Very few address: Why you still feel drawn to the same patterns. How your unhealed wounds or loneliness make red flags feel like “home”. How to design a life structure (community, standards, process) that makes it harder for red flag people to even get close.Our view:Red flags are not just about “bad people”. They’re about vulnerable patterns in us and weak systems around us.We help clients not just spot red flags, but: slow the pace of connection, involve wise community input, and stick to clear standards rooted in their purpose and values.From Red Flags to Robust FiltersThe Relationship Readiness Masterclass includes modules on: your personal “pattern profile”, attachment and trauma dynamics, and practical tools to change who you find attractive.The Matchmaking Readiness Audit gives you a personalised map of where your current dating system leaks.The 1,000 Couples Challenge is about building a generation who aren’t just red‑flag aware, but red‑flag resistant through healthy structures.