“Blind Dates Aren’t the Problem—Blind Processes Are”
https://youtu.be/0-fRhT5LuJAYou’ve probably had someone say: “I know a guy for you. Just go on one blind date!” And hey—sometimes that works. We agree, getting out there matters. Trusted people can see connections you don’t. But here’s the risk, especially if you’re a Black professional with a lot to lose: If their only criteria is “You’re […]
“Dating Red Flags” – From Lists to Life Design
https://youtu.be/E6f8ezU0-8g“Dating red flags” content is everywhere: love bombing, inconsistency, future‑faking, lack of empathy, no accountability. Influencers, including Shan Boody and many therapists, have given us helpful language for patterns that used to be invisible. But here’s the issue: knowing red flags doesn’t automatically mean you stop choosing them. What Red Flag Lists Get Right They […]
“Sex‑Positive Relationship Advice for Millennials”
https://youtu.be/fpazay12xksMillennial dating has been shaped by two forces: purity culture on one side and hyper‑sexualised media on the other. Sex‑positive educators tried to correct the damage: “Your body is yours.” “Consent matters.” “Pleasure is not a sin.” We support that shift. Especially for Black millennials, it was revolutionary. But we’ve now hit a new problem: […]
Shan Boodram – Modern Intimacy Meets Strategic Commitment
https://youtu.be/WLkEYu1nwPQ Where Shan Boodram Adds Real Value Shan Boodram (Shan Boody) has become a leading voice around sex, intimacy, and modern dating. She: Talks frankly about pleasure, consent, and communication. Encourages people to understand their own bodies and boundaries. Challenges shame around sex, especially for women. For many, especially millennials and Gen Z, Shan’s work […]
“Christian Dating Advice” – Faith Is Not a Strategy
https://youtu.be/jgG5Hrq2b40 What Christian Dating Advice Gets Right Christian dating content – including that promoted or discussed by influencers like Stephan and others – often emphasises: Purity, integrity, and honour. Seeking God’s will in your relationships. Valuing marriage and covenant. For many Black believers, this has been life‑giving. It counters hookup culture, celebrates commitment, and reminds […]
From Vague Tips to Strategic Partner Choice
https://youtu.be/a-A1Xom1EUEType “dating advice for women” into Google and you’ll drown in clichés: “Be confident.” “Don’t text first.” “Play hard to get.” “Let him chase you.” Some advice, like improving communication or self‑worth, is helpful. But much of it is vague, contradictory, and rooted in fear of being “too much.” Our work starts from a different […]
“Why Men Lie in Relationships” – Symptom vs. System
What This Question Highlights The phrase “why men lie in relationships” is one of the most‑searched topics in relationship content. Influencers, including Christian and mainstream coaches, have done whole videos on: Fear of conflict. Desire to avoid hurting your feelings. Wanting to keep options open while enjoying your benefits. These explanations can be helpful. They […]
What They Get Right About Healing & Hope in Our Community
Where “Black Love Coach” Voices Get It Right If you scroll Instagram or TikTok, you’ll find a whole ecosystem of Black love coaches speaking directly to our community’s pain: low marriage rates, situationships, generational trauma, fear of commitment, and the longing to be truly seen. At their best, these coaches do three powerful things: Normalize […]
Why Men Lie in Relationships” – Symptom vs. System
What This Question Highlights The phrase “why men lie in relationships” is one of the most‑searched topics in relationship content. Influencers, including Christian and mainstream coaches, have done whole videos on: Fear of conflict. Desire to avoid hurting your feelings. Wanting to keep options open while enjoying your benefits. These explanations can be helpful. They […]
Sex‑Positive Relationship Advice for Millennials” – Freedom + Structure
https://youtu.be/fpazay12xksMillennial dating has been shaped by two forces: purity culture on one side and hyper‑sexualised media on the other. Sex‑positive educators tried to correct the damage: “Your body is yours.” “Consent matters.” “Pleasure is not a sin.” We support that shift. Especially for Black millennials, it was revolutionary. But we’ve now hit a new problem: […]