Black Dating: No Filter: The Power of Authenticity Online
Kevin’s first few months on dating apps were, in his words, “like performing a character.” He used a profile picture from ten years and 20 pounds ago, claimed he was “an avid reader” (he skimmed one article a month), and hid the fact that he had a young son fearing those truths would limit his […]
Black Dating: Reading Between the Lines: Spotting Red Flags and Green Lights
Darren matched with someone who seemed perfect on paper, almost too perfect. Her profile pictures were all professionally done and glamorous, and her bio claimed a dazzling career and world travels. Impressed, Darren messaged her. But as they chatted, a few things felt off: she dodged basic questions, and her stories sometimes contradicted themselves. Meanwhile, […]
Black Dating: Swipe Less, Date More: Quality Over Quantity
Zoe used to treat dating apps like a numbers game. She would swipe right on dozens of people each day and juggle multiple chat threads, thinking this approach would increase her odds of finding someone special. Instead, she found herself exhausted and emotionally detached. Conversations stayed superficial, and first dates blurred together. Realising that “more” […]
Black Dating: Matchmaker, Matchmaker: Could a Pro Help Your Search?
Vanessa was a successful entrepreneur whose schedule left her little time to swipe through apps. After one too many disappointing dates from random matches, she decided to try a different route: hiring a professional matchmaker. Sceptical at first, Vanessa soon found the experience refreshingly personal. Her matchmaker took time to truly understand her values and […]
Marian, 62 and widowed, had not been on a date in 35 years. At the encouragement of her daughter, she tentatively created a profile on a dating site for people over 50. She felt like a fish out of water, worried that online dating was only for the young. To her surprise, she found many […]
Black Dating: Love on Screen: Making Virtual Dates Sparkle
In 2020, when much of the world went virtual, Hannah found herself on a first date via video chat a scenario she never imagined before. She was nervous: What if it was awkward? But she got creative. She and her date both agreed to pick up the same takeout meal and hop on a video […]
Black Dating: Mindset Matters: Staying Positive in the Digital Dating Game
Rahul approached online dating with a heavy dose of skepticism. After a few lukewarm chats and one awkward meetup, he was ready to declare, “Dating apps just do not work for me.” Sensing his frustration, his older sister who had met her fiancé online gave him a challenge: for one month, ban negative self talk […]
Black Dating: Beating Dating App Burnout
After a long day, Sam would slump onto the couch and start swiping not out of excitement, but out of habit. What started as a hopeful search for a partner had turned into a numbing nightly routine. Dozens of faces, endless small talk, and yet nothing to show for it. Eventually, Sam hit a wall. […]
Black Dating: From Match to Meeting: Nailing the Transition
Tariq had plenty of matches and great text conversations, but somehow things never moved beyond the screen. Weeks would pass chatting with a match until the energy fizzled out. Frustrated, he realised he was getting stuck in an endless pen pal zone. Determined to change, Tariq made a new rule: after a few days of […]
Black Dating: Staying Safe: A Guide to Smart Online Dating
Nina matched with a charming man who showered her with compliments. They chatted for days and she started to feel a real connection until he asked for a “small loan” because of an “emergency.” Red flags went up. Instead of sending money, Nina paused and did a little digging. A reverse image search of his […]